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5 Tips for Navigating The Daylight Saving Time Change With Young Children

We’re all likely looking forward to the upcoming spring weather and armed with the hope that it’s coming soon. Since most of those groundhogs did see their shadows, predicting an early spring! Goodbye snowsuits! Goodbye volatile weather! And hello flowers, warmth… and daylight savings time!

Parents of young children may not be looking forward to losing an hour in their day. Not to mention the potential upheaval to morning and bedtime routines. Like with all things parenting, there is no one size fits all or magical approach to get through the time change. But, there are ways to navigate the upcoming time change with more ease.

Here are five areas to explore during the time change. And remember, when all else fails, take in the fresh smells of spring and know that there’s always coffee shops that open early.

1. Shift your perspective

Sleep shifts at many points during parenting; and frankly, daylights savings adds no value to parents’ already unstable relationship with sleep. But while it’s an archaic system that messes with our natural rhythms, for now, most of us will be left dealing with it.

It’s easy (and even normal) to jump into a negative thought spiral. And it’s even easier to do this as a parent, when new challenges come into play.

According to psychologist Rick Hanson, in his book Hardwiring Happiness, our brains have “evolved with a built-in negativity bias.” To survive with predators all around us, we needed to see and appropriately respond to risk everywhere. While we still need to be aware of risk, our world is much different than that of our cave-person ancestors. Worry and negativity can often do more harm than good. Luckily, there are plenty of ways to settle our front brains (amygdala) to approach stressful situations like time changes and lack of sleep with a more calming demeanour.

To shift our own and our children’s perspective, we first need to activate the parasympathetic nervous system, to feel a deeper sense of calm and safety. We can do this by breathing deeply, meditating, and practicing inversions (any position that gets the legs higher than the heart). Adding more smiles and hugs to our day is another easy tool – they boost our oxytocin levels making us feel good.

Affirmations are another incredible tool to conquer tricky experiences. Some useful ones for the time change might be, “This too shall pass!”, “I’m enjoying the spring flowers.”, “I’m enjoying this hot cup of coffee or tea.” Check out more tips on how to create your own perfect affirmation here.

2. Don’t feel pressured to plan ahead for the time change

As with all things parenting, there is a flooding of advice on how to cope with time changes. One often cited method is to plan in the weeks leading up to the clock shift. For some babies, children and their families, this can work well. Yet, for most families even the best-laid plans are bound to go awry.

Whether you plan or not, children are unpredictable (one major flaw of modern parenting advice is that we treat children like programmable robots) and planning can often create more stress than it aims to cut.

Remember, nothing ever stays the same. Time will pass, and everyone will be settled into the new time frame in a week at most.

3. Set your family up with healthy bedtime and sleep habits.

Studies show that our sleep environment is linked to the quality of our sleep. Keeping our environment and our sleep routines in place can help everyone adjust. Here are a few factors to consider:

Lights Out! Any form of artificial light in the evening hours can affect our own and our children’s sleep. Close to bedtime, consider using blackout blinds, eye masks, and reducing the usage of televisions, tablets, phones, and night lights. If you need to use a light in the evening, red-hued lighting such as salt lamps keep our brains from getting stimulated into awake mode.

Keep calm and connected. Studies show that the more calm we feel before bedtime, the easier it is to fall asleep. Plus, our sleep is likely to be deeper and more restorative. Journalling, drawing, or verbally letting go of our day, or any worries is a useful activity to incorporate into their bedtime routine. Activities that connect with our loved ones, like playing a game, chatting through our thoughts, or having some cuddles helps everyone feel safe and ready to fall asleep.

Regularity and routines. Children often like a sense of familiarity and routine. Creating a simple habit of connection and calming activities before bed can create a positive association with bedtime and sleep. These habits will cue your little one that it’s time to settle in, relax, and sleep. Bath, brushing teach, pj’s, books, songs, slow dancing or cuddles, the list could go on! Pick just a few things to keep it simple and unrushed and look to be as present as possible to your child.

Get to sleep earlier. Head to bed and read, listen to music or meditate before your regular bedtime. This is helpful when anticipating a time change but could also be a helpful habit to throw in once or twice a week. It’s a tiny bit of “self-care” that can give you that extra boost you might need for an early riser. Making time to sleep in on weekends is also a great treat. While that might seem impossible with little people, you can plan for this by having one parent, grandparent or friend rise with the early risers so you can get just a few more minutes of stress free winks. Maybe you’ll even get hot coffee in bed? I’m sure you’ll offer to take next weekend, right?

Check out some more tips on how to get more sleep with a baby in tow here.

4. Get active. Get sunlight.

Fresh air, sunshine, movement, and new scenery are magic. They help revive us if we’ve had a rough night, offer us necessary Vitamin D, and they are also great ways to help our circadian rhythms stay on track. Movement may feel like the last thing you want to do when you’re exhausted, but the endorphins that are released during and after being active will make you feel so much better. You just have to get started!

Additionally, our bodies need sunlight to regulate our melatonin levels and “body clocks”. They want bright sunlit days, and dark nights to function optimally.

Getting outside can also help us enjoy the seasonal shift and socialize (and empathize) with other parents that are going through the same transition.

5. Be kind to yourself and your family

Fit in time to do things that make you feel whole. Easier said than done! This may take some conversations and being intentional about creating support for yourself. What are the things in your day or your week that fill you up, make you feel grounded and capable of taking on the day or the rest of the week? What do you look forward to? It could be as simple as a hot shower without having to worry about meeting your child’s needs. How about setting up child care so you can go to a class of some sort? If you feel riddled with guilt, know that even the airlines promote putting on your own oxygen mask before putting on your child’s.

Empathy with your little ones. The time change means nothing to our little ones. When they respond negatively to a shift in their sleep it’s because it doesn’t feel good to their body. They aren’t intentionally trying to be difficult. Take a moment to bring them close and acknowledge their feelings. Let them have some time to feel and process the emotions they might be having.

As author L.R. Knost puts it so well, “When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”

Empathy with yourself. We can all lose our cool when it comes to lack of sleep, combined with energetic children. If you snap or are unkind with your tone of voice, remember that you can apologize for overreacting and let them know you’ll do better next time. “I’m so sorry, I love you” and a cuddle can go a long way. Don’t forget to give yourself a hug and forgive yourself too!

The spring time change can have a greater impact on our bodies and routines than the autumnal shift. But it’s worth remembering that we are heading into the spring and summer for some much needed sun and warmth.

This blog was written in conjunction with Ruth Ruttan, a doula and pilates expert, with a specialty in pelvic floor health. Ruth lives in Toronto and spends her time mothering three humans and supporting all things pregnancy, birth and baby. Find out more about her at www.ruthruttan.ca.

About Kate

Kate SissonsKate is a Birth and Postpartum Doula, Childbirth Educator, Infant Sleep Educator and Yoga Instructor, currently living in Toronto, ON. When she’s not supporting new families on their parenting journey, she is running after her wonderfully active 2-year-old twins. She loves exploring the ravines of the city, drinking green tea and green smoothies (in large mugs), and the colour purple.

For more information about Kate and her support services, visit www.katesissons.com or visit her on Facebook.


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